the  oddity  of human  relationship is that

one never factor time in the equation in the process

we all look for love  or passion 

but we shun  responsibility and accountability

( a sumptuous meal is the like great sex --- both processes

are not completely free of charge

if one has sexual relationship with the opposite

sex or same sex ---we do cut across the

boundary  between friend and lover

the main reason of divorce is we never

pass an examination of ' marriage '

not all people are cut out to be father or mother

-having fun as single is more exciting than

taking care of a family

sex is fun and enjoyable but there is  a price to pay

like -aids and cost in courting and time sort of wasted on seeking

pleasure

eating a sumptuous meal is great but there is cost   and indigestion

( i love gourmet food and once spend 100 usd for one meal

but those days are gone --- )

one night stand is great but is not fulfilling  in the long run

One has to live with his past and sometimes it is just

we are not honest with ourselves

--- at least, on reminiscence or recollection,

this is what happened in life and a lot of mental anguish

was caused by  our own dishonesty with ourselves

and sometime   just not enough love to commit

lover in bed has no relevancy to partner in life

------- a mistake most of us made

lover in bed might be very incompatible in real life

a beautiful body and face is  great boast to one ego

but has no relevancy to happiness

respectability, care and faithfulness have more relevancy

the best definition of love was quoted  by Aristote

-- teacher of Alexander the great

Love is just an act of sacrifice

how truth

if you cannot sacrifice for your lover then

just a short flame ---

in the west we called short romance as short flame

short flame is fun but do not last

 some of ancient sage in china were married to

plain but smart , nice lady --- if you married to the best

looking lady in the city you better become a watchdog

because everyone wants your wife when your back is turn

you cannot be a great in anything if you become a watchdog